I think my girl friend has borderline personality disorder, what to do?

if she recognizes she has a problem and actually finds a professional to help, your relationship may have a chance. otherwise you need to realize you CAN NOT help her. in fact letting her rage and blame you for her mistakes is only enforcing that behavior. you need to set boundaries. (not rules for her to follow, but rules for yourself. let her know what she does that you find disrespectful and remind her you will NOT put up with it.) walk away from the situation if need be. my bf is borderline and the Only reason im still around is b/c hes in therapy and is making progress that i can actually see. he slips up more often than id like but hes dedicated to fighting it. the book "stop walking on eggshells" is awesome if you decide to stick it out. the author also has a support group on yahoo called welcome to oz. its refreshing to see that other ppl are going thru the same exact thing. if you have no one to talk to you actually start believing their delusions about you always being the bad guy.... bpd is tough to deal with and takes a VERY long time to "cure" (for lack of a better word... since you cant really cure it you just lessen the symptoms and pray they dont relapse) if your willing to stick around, hang on! cuz you have a long road ahead of you. if you dont think you can deal it doesn't make you a bad person. (dont listen to her when she tells you that. lol) you have to respect yourself if you want to be there for someone else. and if you cant get the respect you deserve its time to cut your losses. just dont lose yourself! good luck :)